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Likes
a Girl
Dear
msX ~
I'm a girl. I have two boyfriends. But there is this
one popular girl. That I have a crush on. I don't like any other girls just her. She is very beautiful. I want
to tell her but I'm afraid what should I do?
Dear Likes a Girl,
I think it's okay to give her a compliment, tell her you admire her style or her looks, but I'd hold off telling
her about your crush until I had some clearer signal from her. Some people can handle it and some can't, and you
wouldn't want to put yourself or this beauty in such an awkward position that no further contact is possible. Less
is more.
ms. X
Help
Dear
msX ~
Hi my name is Sabrina I'm 13 in the 7th grade I need
beauty tips help me what can I do and I need some hair styles give me some advice
Dear Sabrina,
Go to the Vanities Board and post your questions there. Lots of visitors there know tons of beauty tips and many
are professionals. I'm sure they would be glad to give you beauty advice.
ms. X
Please Help....
Dear
msX ~
Me and my bf have been going out for 9 months and I
love him very much but today we got into a fight about what to listen to on the radio and I kept changing the station
every time he turned on the song he wanted to listen to and then he grabbed my arm like 3 times and the next time
I changed the station he squeezed my neck and violently pushed my head down......what should I do? should I break
up with him? or just ignore the incident?
Dear Please Help,
Run. Escape from this relationship before you further validate his license for violence by sticking around to tolerate
it. Go to the police and get an order of protection, if you have to. Men who abuse don't stop. If this is how he
reacts to not having his way over something as trivial as choosing the radio station, can you imagine how he'll
react to major stuff. Get far, far away from this one, Good luck,
ms. X
Broke Up
Dear
msX ~
Me and my ex-boyfriend has just broke up from a four
and a half relationship. I miss him so much I just don't know what to do.
Dear Just Broke Up,
Sometimes keeping a journal helps, sometimes listening to music and looking through mementos helps to get over
a dead relationship. No matter why you break up, it is still a loss, and there is an element of grieving. Once
you get that part over with, move on. Put yourself back out in the social world and get on with your life.
ms. X
Suicidal
Dear
msX ~
My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year
now, although we were friends for longer than that. All of a sudden he has changed and I don't feel compatible
with him anymore. So I tried to break it off. He tried to commit suicide. So I went back to him in fear of what
he would do to himself. I decided I wanted to go to the prom, he didn't, so I went, not telling him. That was my
mistake. He found out from someone that I went and was furious. Cussing me out in public and he stormed off and
I avoided him for a week. I only saw him once, he was at a school function, with another girl. This week I had
to go back to class. He ignored me for a while but at 3 o'clock he started following me and saying that if he ever
found me alone he would kill me. He grabbed my arm and squeezed it as hard as he could and told me that he wouldn't
leave me until I told him if I still had feelings for him, a teacher walked up and got me away from him for a little
while. What can I do? I'm very afraid. Do I talk to him tomorrow?
Dear Suicidal,
Violent Boyfriend, You are not supposed to run toward danger. He threatened to kill you. He is violent and suicidal.
It is not your problem why he is that way, but now you have the problem of how to separate yourself from him. Do
it quickly. You can go to the police or, at very minimum, the school authorities. This guy needs more help than
you are capable of giving him and could be very dangerous. Protect yourself.
ms. X
Douche
Dear
msX ~
What can I sub. for store bought douche?
Dear Douche Subber,
There are different things you can use to make a homemade douche, but you need to do more research. Try doing a
search for homemade douches and see what washes up.
ms. X
Uniforms
Dear
msX ~
We are getting uniforms at my school and they real stink
but the really bad thing is that the school board didn't approve it the first time but they did the second time.
They didn't even ask the parents about it. So me and some other people want to rebel. What do I do?
Dear Uniforms,
Sorry, but I think that uniforms can be great. Think of all the money your parents can save and what nice clothing
you could buy for your weekends. Not having to think about what to put on in the morning and all the issues that
come with having to wear the right thing can be a distraction. Since uniforms are already a done deal, I suggest
you start looking at all the pluses.
ms. X
Trust
Dear
msX ~
My grand parents do not trust me
Dear Grandparents Don't Trust Me,
Why? Have you done something to make them feel that way? Maybe you are confusing their concern about your safety
and well-being with distrust. Communication is the only way you'll find out and prove to them that you can be trusted.
ms. X
Boyfriend
Dear
msX ~
I've been going out with this guy for about five months
and he's my first love. He treats me so good and cares for me like no other person. Well once and a while he will
call me his ex-girlfriends name and she lives down the road from him and he sometimes goes down there but she has
a boyfriend. Should I be worried? Does He still like her?
Dear Boyfriend,
I'm not clairvoyant, dear. Worry is neither attractive nor productive. Trust is.
ms. X
Mismanaged Time
Dear
msX ~
Hello! My problem is time management. I take more time
to do homework than probably anybody else, I go to bed too late, and I'm late for school literally every day. It's
really frustrating. I've set goals before, but I've never kept them. Do you have any advice?
Dear Mismanaged Time,
Go to the library or find on the net a resource that gives you techniques for time management. Try to introduce
order little by little, so it is not too overwhelming that you give up. Look at when you consume caffeine products
to see if they may be contributing to your body clock being off, sometimes it might just be a small adjustment.
ms. X
confused
Dear
msX ~
My problem is that I have liked this boy named Ricky
since new years and for like 2 weeks we talked an then he said I just want to be friends so I said okay well about
3days ago he told one of my friends that me and him needed to hang out does this mean that there is a chance he
likes me?? because he talks about me all the time but he doesn’t want a girlfriend hasn’t wanted one since we started
being friends and believe me he knows how much I like him cause I have told him what should I do???
Dear Confused,
You can be patient. You say he knows how you feel and you say he doesn't want a girlfriend. Until he tells you
otherwise, you're going to have to wait for his move.
ms. X
afraid
Dear
msX ~
I really like this girl I want to call her and ask her
out but I’m afraid she will say no what should I do. Do you think I should I should have a friend ask her or what?
Dear Cyrano,
Having a friend do it for you is not what you want to do. Sometimes you just have to take a risk. The worst thing
that could happen is she could say no, but even if she does, life will go on. Good things are worth the risk.
ms. X
???
Dear
msX ~
I was just wondering if there was any advice you giving me on getting married. I am seventeen years old and my
boyfriend and are know that we are in love. We don't want to start setting dates or anything. Would it be a bad
thing if we got married when we got out of high school and I was 18 going on 19? Please Help!
Thanks
Dear High School Grad Bride,
While it might not be the worst thing in the world to get married right after high school, what's your rush? Marriage
takes a lot of work. A few years of being young and carefree before you hit the altar is not a bad idea. Some young
marriages do last, but the odds are against you. Wait a few years and stack the odds in your favor.
Think carefully.
ms. X
Should I like a guy that doesn't like me?
Dear
msX ~
I have liked a guy for a very long time. He was a great
friend and when he knew I liked him we hanged out and did alot of stuff together. We hug, we kiss, we were really
cool with each other. But in the last year it all changed he stopped talking to me never listened to me and started
using me. But when he’s with me I feel that the world is perfect! So should I still like him or get over him? And
if I should get over him how do I do that?
Dear Should I Like A Guy Who Doesn't Like
Me,
If you do, you should keep it to yourself. It doesn't make you look very smart or attractive. Tolerating someone
treating you like garbage says alot about what you think you deserve. Keep your feelings for this guy a secret
and hope they go away.
ms. X
suicidal friend
Dear
msX ~
my best friend is having major family problems. her
mom drinks alot and she came to me today crying and telling me her mom said she hated her and stuff like that and
um.......well she has been suicidal in the past and she is trying to get family and self counseling but her mom
won't do family and they won't drive her to counseling and she is talking about suicide and running away and I
know she will do it and I’m scared to death because I know one of these times I’m not going to be able to hold
her tight and tell her it will be ok and calm her down and I don't know what I can do. I can't lose her. I’m not
to close to my parents either and she is all I have. please tell me anything I can do to help any hot line numbers
or anything.
Dear Suicidal Friend,
This is too big a problem for you alone. Give it to a grownup. If not your own grownup, give it to the school guidance
counselors. Your friend and her family need professional help in working out their difficulties. You cannot hold
their family together or pick up pieces for your friend. Threatening suicide needs to be taken seriously. Report
it ASAP. Your love for your friend is wonderful, but sadly, she needs much, much more.
Good luck,
ms. X
Majorly Stupid
Dear
msX ~
I was in the bathroom today talking to my friend about
this girl I thought was really pretty. Then I said, Yeah, but I saw a picture of her last year and she was ugly.
I didn't know anyone else was in the bathroom. So, when I came out, so did one of the girl's best friends. She
gave me a really dirty look. She is a senior and will be gone in about 2 and a half weeks, but I need advice about
how to stay clear of her or smooth things over until she's gone. I just don't wanna get my butt kicked or anything.
Dear Majorly Stupid,
You can say you're sorry, that you meant it as an observation, not an insult. Or, if it doesn't come up, don't
bring it up. Chances are, the others don't want to fight either. Drop it. Learning to think before you speak is
another good thing to try.
ms. X
HELP
HOW DO I KNOW
Dear
msX ~
This is really to just help me out cause I really cant
tell well there’s this guy who I have liked since new years (Ricky) well me and him hit if off from the start but
he has a big issue with having a girlfriend he just doesn’t want one so we decided to just be friends well in the
past 5 months we have been the best of friends and yeah we have had some kisses in them months but only little
friendly kisses well mine and his friends are always saying he talks about me alot and he’s always asking about
me when I’m not with them and my best friend Lisa said that we have a connection like we will be together and I
will get up and he will watch me walk I don’t know what to do he knows how I feel about him cause I tell him all
the time does he like me?????????????
help some advice please
Dear How Do I Know,
I think I've said this before. You're going to blow anything that's possible if you keep pushing for an answer.
The ball's in his court. Give him a chance to think about whether he wants to play. Patience,
ms. X
Coffee Shop Flirt
Dear
msX ~
My friend & I were strolling the mall & stopped
in a coffee shop. One of the guys behind the counter was making eyes at me. My friend realized what was going on
& decided to go get us a table outside while I ordered drinks. From there this guy totally started flirting
with me (which I greatly appreciated, since he was quite good looking). After I left & met my friend outside,
she decided she wanted something to eat. I tell her that while she's in there she should tell him that I think
he's hot (not the smoothest way of doing things, I know). According to her, he just started blushing & gave
her what she ordered. We waited until she'd finished eating then left. In a few days we'll probably be going back
there & I want to know if I should dare show my face in the coffee shop again, let alone continue flirting.
Dear Coffee Shop Flirt,
If you want to go there, don't let any awkwardness stand in your way. When you get there, you'll be able to tell
if more flirting is in order or if you should just pretend that you're the shy twin sister.
ms. X
Boycrazy
Dear
msX ~
I’m a junior in high school and my problem isn't big...just
annoying. I’m boy crazy and a big flirt. however, once I start to get close with a guy and things could actually
progress into more than a friendship, I don't like him anymore. It's like little things that he does turn me off.
I hate this because it happens so many times. I want to actually have a relationship with a guy but right now its
impossible because I can't really get close to a guy. I mean I have many guy and all but I’ve never had an actual
boyfriend. I know some people say its just because I’m not ready for a relationship, but if I wasn't ready then
how come I will like someone so much but when something could evolve, I end up not liking them? do you have any
advice??
Dear Boycrazy,
What you're describing is within the realm of normal behavior for someone your age. Flirting is how we find out
if there's any chemistry. You need to taste something new before you know if you like it. This is how you find
out what you like and don't like in people. If you can't commit, it might just be you haven't found the right person
to commit to. Have a little patience and enjoy the process.
ms. X
Too
many men!
Dear
msX ~
Right now about four of my guy-friends have admitted
to me that they're attracted to me, but I've already made the decision to be single for summer. However, I love
flirting and teasing guys, which is very wrong, I know. Just yesterday I actually kissed one of these guys, and
the week before I agreed to go on a date with another one, the Wednesday before that I had a close encounter with
another one....I know I'm leading all of these guys on, I don't want to break their hearts, what can I do to make
them all happy?
Dear Too Many Men,
How are you leading them on? Do they think you want to marry them? Have you made any promises? Unless you have,
you have every right to play the field. Try enjoying it.
ms. X
Just Broke Up
Dear
msX ~
I JUST BROKE UP WITH MY BOYFRIEND AND I REALLY LOVE
HIM BUT I DONT REALLY KNOW HOW TO HANDLE THE SITUATION BECAUSE MY BEST FRIEND IS GETTING IN THE WAY OF EVERY THING.
WHAT SHOULD I DO?
Dear Just Broke Up,
Remove your best friend from the situation by asking her, or telling her, that you want to deal with this on your
own. Then, if this is what you want, talk to your ex-boyfriend alone and by yourself about what you think you want
from him. It is not your friend's place to negotiate your reunion.
ms. X
need
help now
Dear
msX ~
there is this boy that I love alot I have liked him since day one I don't know how to tell him but I need to because
he is about t get a girl that will always stop me one friend of mine is going to hook them up but she doesn't know
I like him and the girl he's about to go out with is a controlling stuck up snob me and him have been best friend
for a little bit now and I don't real know how to tell him with out hurting him because he used to have a crush
on me and he said to his best guy friend that he could never go out with me after what happened. please help me
Dear Need Help Now,
Who's the controlling one again? Seems you are trying to play Ringmaster in this fellow's three-ring circus. Not
your job. But, if you like him so much, it's time to speak up now. Before he takes control of his own destiny,
he might want to know you're a contender.
ms. X
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