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Message Board Guidelines


A little controversy and debate are part of good conversation. It's only natural that disagreement may arise. But it should be in a framework of respect, with consideration for others and for yourself. Here are some guidelines for posting on the Coffeerooms boards.
1. FEEL FREE TO "LURK"
We hope that you'll join in and become an active participant in the discussions, but you're welcome to simply hang out silently until you feel comfortable posting a message. It's fine to read the boards as much as you want without posting.
2. DON'T BE AFRAID TO POST
Jump into a discussion. We have a very supportive community and you’ll find lots of encouragement and enthusiasm. We love meeting new people and making new friends.
3. SAY "HI" TO NEWCOMERS
When newcomers arrive, please say "hello" and welcome them. Help new folks get involved and find all the good stuff that’s here.
4. READ & POST WITH A SMILE
Messages on bulletin boards don't show you the poster's smile, so you need to bring one with you. It helps if you wear a smile when you write your own posts too! Look for the positive way to say what is on your mind. Try to be sensitive to the feelings of posters who may disagree with you, and remember that for every opinion you express, there is likely to be someone out there with a differing opinion.
5. BE CONSIDERATE AND RESPECTFUL
If you treat all posters with respect - even those whom you feel have been insensitive - there's a good chance that they will begin to post with respect for your feelings too. When criticizing a character or an actor on TV or in a movie, please try to keep your points as objective as possible. It's okay not to like a character or to not care for an actor's style, but others on the boards may not share your view – and, likewise, they may disagree with your favorites.
6. "BLAST THE POST, NOT THE POSTER"
Disagreement is common in good conversation, but it's important to keep comments focused on what is said, and not on who said it. Don't attack other posters. Because this is so important, we'll say it again: Don't attack others. Personal attacks aimed at others will not be tolerated. Challenge others' points of view and opinions, but do so respectfully and thoughtfully, without insult or personal affront.
7. IGNORE AND "ALERT"
If you come across a post that you find insensitive, or offensive, the best reply is none at all. Heated replies and "flames" just provoke more of the same, but "no response" is an unassailable comment. Also, remember that it's possible that the poster did not intend offense, and that others may not find it offensive. If you want to be sure that the post comes to our attention, please use the "Alert" link that is inside every message. That helps us to quickly find it and check it out.
8. DON'T USE VULGAR LANGUAGE
Posts that contain, link to or solicit obscene, vulgar or inappropriately explicit language or graphics are not permitted. When found, they will be removed.
9. DON'T USE HARASSING OR HATEFUL LANGUAGE
Harassing, offensive, vulgar, abusive, hateful or bashing posts -- especially those aimed at gender, race, color, sexual orientation, religious views, national origin, or disability – will not be permitted. Harassing posts are considered to be those that may cause distress, embarrassment, unwanted attention or other discomfort.
10.COFFEEROOMS RESERVE THE RIGHT, but are not obligated to, delete posts. This includes any posts that do not comply with these guidelines, or that otherwise might be considered to be offensive or inconsiderate to other posters or which detract from the generally friendly and upbeat environment. If one of your posts is deleted, keep in mind it may have been part of an entire deleted segment, and it is not necessarily a comment about your post. Feel free to email us to ask "why?" if you don't understand why a post was deleted.