I am a 41 year old that is dating again. I wonder if other 41 year olds have as many issues with it than I do. To complicate matters, I am a lupus sle sufferer. I am in remission and do very well with everday tasks at this point. I am looking for love so I don't usually come out and tell anyone that I am dating that I have it. Do you think I should tell a person that I am dating about it early on or wait until after a 6 month period, when I know if I have been seeing the person long enough it would be safe to let them know about it?